Keeping a Routine in Uncertain Times

posted 9/17/20 -- We all know the importance of routines for children. For instance, developing a bedtime routine of tooth brushing followed by one story and a bedtime hug will make this time less challenging. When children know what to expect they are best equipped to handle even the things they don’t like to do.

But now we are in uncertain times, and even our own routines have been disrupted. How can we create something for our children that we don’t even have?

Don’t let routine disruptions get you down. Things are not always going to be perfect and predictable, but how you handle them can make a big difference in the lives of children. Do your best to keep your child informed of what is happening, if there are any changes, and what the new plan entails. Children do not do well when they lack information.

Keep your explanations simple and remember to always validate your child’s feelings. For example: “You are disappointed because you wanted me to pick you up from school today.” You don’t have to make big promises in an effort to make it better; you just need to validate the feeling.

If you don’t already have routines for your children, now is the time to develop them. One of the best ways is to develop a picture schedule, since children are visual learners. Find the times during your day that you find yourself repeating requests or instructions; save your voice and let the pictures do the talking! If bedtime is your struggle, put four or five pictures together showing the expected sequence. For example: pajamas, toothbrush, bed, story. Teach your child to consult the picture board for each step.

By having a life full of routines, your child will build a strong foundation of feeling safe, which will help him or her handle the inevitable disruptions.